Online Personal Ads - Talking to the Opposite Sex
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As an Online Dating Coach, I read a lot of Internet personal ads that - quite frankly - surprise me! Some of the guys who write Online Personal Ads seem to be writing ads that are designed to sell used cars. And from the women? I often see personal ads that even low-end mail order catalogs would refuse.
Here's one example. This ad was submitted by a woman in her early 40's -
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"I love to talk about books that have struck you bizarre or interesting. I do want someone to hang out with, and must enjoy talking about politics, books, places and wine. Must love chocolate!"
Communication is apparently high up on this woman's priority list (how nice!) Whether "talking about everything" is also nice would depend, I suppose, on what "everything" might include. It's hard to say what she's referring to when she talks about "bizarre" books, although Stephen King novels come to mind for me. I'm not sure how many guys love chocolate, but for the sake of maintaining positive relationships, I imagine a lot of guys would go along with that one - assuming, of course, that "bizarre" books don't stand in the way first!
It would be interesting to see which types of guys reply to this ad!
Or check out this Internet Dating ad from a 29-year-old man who calls himself the Tattoo Teddy Bear:
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"i just want a good girl that knows how to treat a man with respect."
Short, sweet, and to the point, yes?
So is it any wonder that so many single men and women are just like "two ships passing in the night?"
One of the secrets to writing effective online personal ads is to write your ads just like you're having a real, live conversation with your reader.
Or to express things in terms of what NOT to do:
1. Don't write your Internet Dating Ads so they sound like magazine advertisements!
2. Don't "talk down" to your readers.
3. Never write a short (one or two sentence) ad. You just can't say enough in a short ad to really "sell" yourself properly!
Follow these guidelines instead:
1. In your online dating ads, talk about yourself in such a way as to create an image of yourself as a real person in the mind of your reader. You might want to include some of your personal interests and hobbies - and what you enjoy doing on a date.
2. Tell the reader (without bragging) how he or she will feel when they're with you. Put yourself in the mind and soul of your reader, and empathize with them. What are they thinking - and what might they be feeling - while reading your ad?
3. Mention some of your best inner qualities to motivate your readers to respond to your ad!
4. What are some of the reasons (i.e., the benefits) for answering your ad today? What will she or he gain by doing so?
5. Don't forget to spell-check your ad before you submit it!
If you follow the guidelines I've suggested above, you'll be on your way to a very successful Internet Dating experience!
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